Feeling lonely in your marriage? Why it's common and how to speak up With the world in turmoil, many people may discover marriage is not a buffer for loneliness. Feeling alone while sharing life with a partner may sound impossible to single people, but relationship experts say it happens when the connection becomes disappointing.
Part of the problem may be the high expectations people have of marriage and their spouses in general. A partner is expected to be the best friend, excellent lover, close intimate, fun entertainer, stimulating intellectual and more — but one relationship was never meant to provide such a diverse fulfillment of needs, Schwartz noted.
That puts a lot more stress on the couple relationship, said co-author Ashley Ermer, an assistant professor of family science and human live at Montclair State University in Montclair, New Jersey. We apologize, this video has expired.
How the woman feels may be key in heterosexual ii, she and her colleagues found. Women are the ones who often plan and organize family gatherings and outings with friends for the couple so her level of socializing — or isolation — becomes his. Women especially may benefit from frequently meeting up with friends, it noted.
For men, it was more about the tension in the relationship: Husbands who perceived their marriages as strained felt lonelier.